30 Day Challenge, Day One: Five Ways to Win Your Heart

I think as we grow up and older, the things that matter to us change. The things that make us stop and take notice of people begin to differ, especially in such uncertain times and with a divided society. I think the first thing to win my heart is kindness, which sounds absurd and standard, but you see so many people, not even necessarily mean, just caught up in their own lives and world. People often forget to notice that the person beside them needs help, whether they intentionally forget because it's convenient for them, or they literally just cannot see it. I think the second thing is humor. A common thing most people say, but I think humor is a little different to everyone, and you're using a little word to sum up a lot of meaning. You want someone who can make you laugh, genuinely laugh because they said something you found funny. You want someone who understand when you make a joke, without you having to explain it to them. Someone who can take your smart-ass comments and handle them and know that's just a part of who you are and knows better than to take you seriously. Someone who shares the things you're lighthearted about and sees the world the way you do. Third would be someone who has the ability to apologize. Apologizing is not and never will be one of my personal strong suits, so it's something I highly value in other people. The ability to apologize means you have someone who can admit they're wrong, someone who can step up and end a fight, someone who knows the value of stepping down, someone who is willing to put their pride aside to keep you. It's a sure fire way to show someone that they're worth it to you. I think the fourth thing I value in a person is passion. Why would you want someone who cares deeply about nothing? You want someone who can speak life into something. I care about many things deeply and intensely and they are very essential to the core of who I am as a person. I don't want someone who is so uninterested and involved in life. It's what we are, alive. And passion makes it clear as to why. The final thing is a bit hard for me to decide on, but I thing it's someone who compliments you. Yes, compliments. All people need someone who feeds them. I don't mean telling someone they're pretty everyday, I mean yes, but more than that, being able to tell someone that you love them, and they're doing a good job. There will be things in life your partner will work on and work towards and it's important to have someone acknowledging that. Yes, I see you and I see what you're doing. You're not being ignored, and you're effort is not unnoticed. I appreciate you and you matter.